Leadership and self-deception

As a leader/manager, how many times have you felt that others are not understanding your situation and incompetent? How many times you got frustrated because of your colleague’s behavior?

On a first look, it looks quite common and straightforward to think that as an individual we are right and others are wrong but how can you be so sure if you haven’t heard other’s perspective? My recent read “Leadership and Self-deception” dwell into this subject and beautifully conveys the message that in most cases, individuals are at the fault and get in the way of achieving great results. The author talks about the concept of “inside the box”- meaning thinking of people as mere objects and “outside the box” – meaning thinking of people as person. Like everything in the world, people could be “inside the box” and “outside the box” to the different people and in different situations. Our goal is to maximize the amount of time we spend “outside the box” in other words empathize with people which in turn will get the optimal result for the organizations.

These concepts are explained in the fictional story form which makes it an easy read and helps in better grasping the concepts.

Special thanks to Gayatri for the book recommendation.

The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows.

For the past few days I have been in Bangalore and I am really enjoying over here. I met a few of my friends with whom I have not talked recently. It turns out that most of them have some sort of problems and they were unhappy with one or the other thing. Sometimes I feel the same “Things are not going the way I wanted to”. Whenever you feel the same , read below quote from “Rocky Balboa”

 

Rocky is the title character of Rocky series. It was played and directed by Sylvester Stallone. There was a time in Sylvester’s life when he slept on New York City Port Authority bus station for three nights. He had written the script of Rocky and wanted to play the lead role in the movie. He talked to many producer, some of them really liked the script(Few offered huge amount for script) but they did not want him as lead role.  To survive he had to sell his dog(friend) at merely 25 $. Later one producer agreed to produce the film but he offered much less than what other producer had offered just for script but he still accepted it. And Rockey turn out to be huge success and rest is history.  Later he bought his dog back for 3000 $ which he sold for mere 25 $. Inspiring Story. Isn’t it? Do we have such problems ?  Don’t we have place to sleep ?

“I believe everyone has capability but persistence is the key.”

Further Reading(Related Post):

Why I have so many problems in Life? 

Life never turns the way we want but…

 

Best Things in Life – 1

Have you ever thought “What are the best things in life?” I am sure most of us have not. Whether you are student or a working professional or an entrepreneur , just give it a thought before reading further…… What all things come to your mind? Is it money , beautiful house or nice car? My dear friend , none of these things matter after some point. Recently I came across below video and that inspired me to write this post.

What do you think ? We are happy in our small world and very small things gives us great pleasure. It may be talking to old school/college friends after long time or it may be going to your native after long time or it may be getting first round of funding (even though it is little) after lots of hard work. Isn’t it? That’s Relativity Of Life.

Is This Really My Life ?

If you are feeling like “Is this really my life?” than this post is for you. Don’t worry you are not the only person who feels the same. There are thousands of people out there in the world. Do you feel like why I have so many problems in my life?  .Always remember one thing “If you don’t have problems in your life than I am sure you are not living life.”  Life is what you make of it.

There are moments when you ask God “Why me?” But according to me you should be thankful to him because he tried you. There are thousands of people like you in the world but he chose you. There is something unique in you. So now on wards when you face problems and you feel like “Why me?” Just remember above lines and say “Try me.” . If you are not convinced yet than let me explain it it a different way. If you don’t face any problems/challenges and you don’t respond well to those challenges than you will die like an ordinary person. No one will remember you. Is it okay with you? or on the other end you want yourself to be remembered by next generation.

Still not convinced: Think of the time when you got success . It can be your school/university grade ,extra curricular activities , promotion or it can be anything else. Now ask yourself. When you got success, have you asked “Why me?”.  Answer would be “No” Right !!! Than why are you afraid now?

Related post: Turn Your Fear into Curiosity.

If You Don’t Know—Learn It…If You Know—Improve Upon It…

Learning is a lifelong process. The one who achieved something in their life always has a Learning Attitude. Someone has rightly said “One who graduated yesterday ,stop learning today ,will become uneducated tomorrow.” We can always learn something from anyone  anywhere and at anytime. An Engineer can also learn from Engineering student. If you are the Manager ,you can always learn something good from your employees. The real challenge in today’s world is People have EGO issue. We should leave that behind if we real want to make progress in our life. As a parent you can learn from  your children. As an teacher you can learn from your students. Every person on these universe is unique. Even Twins have their unique qualities.  Never look for something bad in a person. Everyone on these universe has something good. If you look for good in people then you can learn good things and you won’t have any problem in any relation ship.Never let EGO overshadow your eagerness to learn. So my message is

“If you don’t  know,learn it. If you know,improve upon it.”

The ABC of Life

For a meaningful life we need only ABC. Now a days people are more focusing on complete A-Z. People learn A-Z but not able to learn ABC of Life. And this ABC are A – Attitude B – Boldness And C – Confidence. Parents make their children to learn almost everything available in the world. But unfortunately they are not able to make learn them with these simple ABC. If you have all the three and even if you don’t have some other quality then also you can make good progress.So my request is to

“Give importance to these ABC with A-Z you are learning.”

Life Is Beautiful : Live It , Learn It , Love It.

Life is like a train. We all are passengers travelling in the same train. Some are enjoying the journey even in the general class while some are unhappy in spite of being in AC coach. At each station new people come into coach(Life) . We interact with them and learn from them and when their station came they left us. Instead of missing someone all the day , accept the reality. That’s Life..dear…It does not matter how much time you have spent with someone but it is the bond between two heart that keeps them always near. The one who does not accept the reality , has to suffer a lot. I want to say…..

Life Is Beautiful…….

Everything In Life Happens For A Reason……..

So…….Live It…………..

Learn It…………….

Love It………

Use Your Smile To Change The World…….

Don’t Let The World Change Your Smile………………….