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Alone or Lonely? What’s the Difference?


In English dectionary , Alone and Lonely are synonyms but acording to me they are completely different. Being Lonely means you don’t have someone with you to share something. It can be considered as one of “those” sad moments. While on the other hand I define being Alone as “Enjoying with soul”. Loneliness may kill you but being alone will build you.  From my limited experience , I came to know that most of the people hate “Being Lonely” because they don’t know the power of “Being Alone”. It will help you to heal many problems/difficulties of your life. Okay. I am convinced that by being alone I can build better me but to be frank I don’t have time.I have family[responsibility] , I have job[tension/pressure] , I could not even meet my old friends and there are many more.. But my dear friend “Being Alone” for few minutes is going to help you in all these things. I am not asking for more than 5 minutes daily of your so called “busy” schedule. Okay. I will find time but what to do in these 5-10 minutes What do I get?. Hmm. That’s the problem. We want something from whatever we do. But sometimes best things in the world are free for example what do get by “Smile”. [I will write more about best things in the world in the upcoming post.] In this 5-10 minutes you can:

– Read your diary if you have one

– Check your pictures library [It will make you realize how your life has changed]

– Observe nature [My Favourite]

– Talk to your parents if they are not living with you.

– Think about yourself [Where were you before 5-10 years ago.]

– Do Nothing. [Yes really]

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Navratri: As we grow


Navratri is a festival dedicated to the worship of a Hindu deity Shakti. The word Navaratri literally means nine nights in Sanskrit, nava meaning nine and ratri meaning nights.During these nine nights and ten days, nine forms of Shakti/Devi are worshiped. The 10th day is commonly referred to as Vijayadashami or “Dussehra.” Navratri is a very important and major festival in the state of Gujarat and Mumbai, where during all these days the traditional dance of Gujarat called ‘Garba’ is been performed by everyone.

Being an Gujarati , I very well know the way we celebrate the “Navratri“. We celebrate it every year ,but as we grow older ,the form of celebration changes. You can consider it as part of series “As We Grow”. Earlier I wrote Friendship Day: As We Grow . Unlike other festivals it is celebrated by people of all ages, of course their way of celebration is different. As a child , they don’t know much about it. All nine days they are excited about prasad people distribute after AartiFrankly speaking I really enjoyed eating different prasad during Navratri days. 😉 They enjoy “Garba” with their little friends.

And they used to play Garba Ground/Temple near their house with their new traditional cloths. While their parent prefers to sit and watch their children playing. If someone forces them , they don’t mind to play for some time. Even their grandparent really enjoy these days.  But that is not the case these days in most places. Small playground is not fits peoples status. People started moving to famous club and big organizers. Even that is good because at least they are enjoying the days. But after getting job or while studying at different places people especially Gujju  miss those days.In post Friendship Day I wrote some different way of celebration as we grow but things are still same in case of Navratri if we ignore few things like 1. It become part of product promotion etc. Children play Garba. Parent love to watch them. Grandparent feel happy to see their grandchildren playing and they remember their old days.And yes for little kids, they still want that different Prasad.🙂

You can not Expect Everyone to be Yourself

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This post is for every single person on this earth. If you have not experienced it before, you will surely experience it in your life. You have experienced with your friends , colleagues , classmate , cousins , neighbor and many more. There are situations when someone make you think  “How one can behave such way? That is not fair.” But my dear friend as the title says you can not expect everyone to be like yourself. Almighty GOD has made everyone unique. Everyone has their own belief , their own culture , their own value as well as their own thinking process. Probably what you feel for others , the same feeling someone had for you at different situations.

The other situation can be “Good things always happens to others.” Then I would say “You are also “others” for someone else.” So respect each and every person you meet.

Good People are hard to find on earth…Really?????

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Most of you had bad experience with your friends/colleagues / classmates /neighbors and many more. Don’t You? And you have not talked to them for few minutes/hours or may be month. There is the real challenge. From the early childhood we are taught that people are bad but actually they are not. No one is perfect. In a movie “My Name is Khan” SRK’s mom told him “Beta , Duniya main sirf  do tarah ke hi Insaan hote hai 1. Achche Insaan  aur 2. Bure Insaan ” (Son. There are only two kind of people in this world 1. Good People 2. Bad People ) But I am not agree with it. instead I say there is always two thing a person 1. Good Things  and 2 Bad Things .So now next time you had some problem with someone then first think “What is wrong?” Instead of “Who is wrong?”

So….

People say find good people and leave bad ones…

but I changed it …

Find the good in people and ignore the bad in people…

We all live three lives: Public , Personal and Private

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People believe there is only one life. But I believe we live three lives namely: Public,Personal and Private. In public everyone knows who we are. Like our all friends know who we are, where do we study,etc. It is kind of overview of the person. While in personal life we share our some of the views to our close friends. It may include our feelings for others , our happy moments and some sad moments. Although we do not share such information with others. While the last on is Private. It affects our behavior.Although we share everything with our best friend ,there are always few things we never share with anyone. Even not with our  “Parents”. Even when we die we take it with us. We come to know about such life only when we are alone.We can find so many things that perhaps no one knows better than us.What do you say ?

Identification of Real Friend


Everybody loves a winner, it has been said, but nobody knows you when you’re down and out. You never know who your real friends are until adversity overtakes you and you need cooperation.One of the often unappreciated benefits of adversity is that it accelerates the process of identifying your true friends. Most of us have many acquaintances and associates, but we are indeed fortunate if we have a handful of real friends. You will very quickly identify yours when you ask them for help. The wise individual is the one who, when asked for assistance, recognizes that he may one day find himself in the same situation.

Ray Of Hope For Life


Life can be compared to our eyes. When our eyes are in bright part for little time and then if we move to dark room then we cannot see anything.  But if we spent some time in the same dark room then we can see everything and find our ways through it. Similarly in our life when we have spent more time in our good(bright) days and suddenly we have to  face the bad(dark) days we cannot see forward(future). But if have hope then after some time we can find our ways through it and can give our best. So the real key to success is HOPE. I want to say

“Always have faith in three things for getting success.

1. Family

2. God

3. The most important is yourself.”

In your dark days control your mind because

“ Our mind is our great friend , if we control it. But our mind is our greatest enemy ,if it controls us.”

If you call on your friends only when you need something, you will soon find yourself without friends.


There is a great deal of wisdom in the old saw, “If you want friends, be a friend.” Friendship means giving without expecting anything in return. Busy, successful people are not searching for new friends. If you want to be their friend, you must make the effort to befriend them. Let them know that you are interested in them as people, not in what they can do for you, and you may find that you have made a true and loyal friend.