Diwali : As We Grow

Diwali is popularly known as “Festival of Lights”. For Hindus, Diwali is one of the most important festivals of the year and is celebrated in families by performing traditional activities together in their homes. For Jains, Diwali marks the attainment of moksha or nirvana by Mahavira. Diwali commemorates the return of Lord Rama, along with Sita and Lakshmana, from his 14-year-long exile and vanquishing the demon-king Ravana. In joyous celebration of the return of their king, the people of Ayodhya, the Capital of Rama, illuminated the kingdom with earthen diyas and by bursting firecrackers.

I am not going much deeper into history in this post. For more details on Diwali , please read this . To continue my series of As We Grow: Navratri ,  Friendship Day ,  I am going to write about change in the way of “Diwali” celebration.  For a child the most exciting part is they get Diwali vacation , lots of sweets and they can play games all the day with their friends after completing their Diwali homework. Moreover they have lots of fun by bursting firecrackers. For college students they plan to visit new places during small vacation. There is not much difference till they started working/become professional. Once they start working at some company they have only few days of leave. They could not enjoy much.However there is always celebration at compan but it is “professional” celebration For them the most exciting part is they can be at their home town for few days. Although if someone is working near his/her hometown , he/she can enjoy more. However the charm they had when they were child is gone.  For Mothers, they have lots of work to do. This is the time of year when they clean up old things . And they keep themselves busy making lots of sweets. My favorite sweets are ghughra , kaju katri . My mom makes the best ghughra. 🙂

After Diwali there is Hindu New Year (Often known as Vikram New Year). On this day people wish there relatives a new year. And almost for a week people visit their near relatives’ house to wish new year. Earlier people used to have communication with their relatives often but because of the modern  lives they are living sometimes they can see their relatives once a year and that is new year.Diwali is festival of five days.Dhan Teras(It is considered an auspicious day for buying utensils and gold, hence the name ‘Dhana’.) ,Naraka Chaturdashi (kali Chaudas) (It signifies the victory of good over evil and light over darkness) , Diwali , New Year (It is celebrated as the first day of the Vikram Samvat calendar, in Gujarat.), Bhai Bij (on this day, brothers and sisters meet to express love and affection for each other) People illuminate their houses with Diyas and during these days all houses look very beautiful. I want to give one suggestion: From whatever culture you belong , always try to enjoy each and every festivals because when you move to new area/country/culture you are going to miss your place.ex

Expectation: Real cause of your unhappiness

How many times you feel disappointed/nervous/unhappy?  Just because someone has not done something the way you want. Just because you were not able to deliver something to your boss. In both the situation it is the expectation that makes you disappointed/nervous/unhappy. In first case your expectation is high from other person. While in other case your boss is expecting more from you. Also in education(especially in India) parents expect more from their children. Every parent wants their children to be a doctor/engineer . But they don’t understand that each and every human on the earth are unique. They have their own feelings  , capabilities and virtues. If a child’s father/mother is engineer/doctor  , then they force their child to follow(continue) their profession. You can not Expect Everyone to be Yourself . I am not telling you that expectation are bad. It is a motivating factor but it should not harm to your happiness. Always keep in mind Life never turns the way want.

So.

Expect More From Yourself and Less From Others…..

Work More…..

But never override your expectation with your happiness.

Things that child never tells to his/her parent

To,
My Lovely Parent

When a child born he does not know anything about the real world. It was his parents that make him aware of everything. And he better knows it. Till the age of 15-17 he is enjoying his childhood. He has no fear/worries/tension. His parents and friends are his
world. He just do what his parents wants im to do. He shares everything with his parents. He has a great inner feeling while reaching home every day. But after the age 17-18 , he realized what his parents are doing for him and how they are cutting  their requirement just for the betterment of their children. It is the life changing step for a child. Now he is no more a child. He is entering into adulthood. And after observing his parents daily life, he clearly understood the value of his parents. And the day he starts working for giving every happiness to his parents. And now he no more shares his defeat and disappointments. He will share only his achievement and success. He wants to see his parents happy. After completing his education he starts working on giving every happiness to his parents. But meanwhile during the course of his education he came across many difficult situations. But he never shares. And surprising he suppress his feeling (dream) under the wish of his parents saying “I have my whole life to accomplish my dreams. But my parents don’t.”

I agree there are children described “badly” in many articles but there are children exactly doing opposite to it as described in the article above. How one can forget the priceless moments shown below.

Whatever may be the condition, human emotions are not going to change. So I am becoming more modern or I must say “Adjusting with the current environment” but my feeling are not going to change. Love you parents.

From,

A 21st Century Child