Behavior and Intention

Lately I have been quite active on Twitter and have come across really thought-provoking discussion and tweets. Recently I read thread from Sahil Lavingia – CEO Gumroad about different between Behavior and Intention.

Behavior is what someone is doing, intention is why they’re doing it. You judge yourself based on your intention, and everyone else based on their behavior.

If we think more about it, most of the disagreement, misunderstanding happens because of judging people on their behavior. Intention is something that we assume people would be able to comprehend from our behavior. Often times people have their unique ways of understanding and making sense of your behavior. To elaborate more on this, I was talking to one of my friend who recently traveled to USA and he had similar experience of inferring people’s intention from their behavior. He mentioned that USA team-members are not as hard-working as India team-members and when we talked more about this, he mentioned that most of the team-members used to leave by 5 PM (Behavior) which means they are not as hard-working (Intention) as Indian team-mates. There are lots of cultural aspects which comes into play and would be difficult to infer the intention of the people. Sahil also wrote about this in another tweet.

Let’s say you don’t think a new team member is working out. You’re judging them based on their behavior. Ask them their intention — if it’s in the right place, work with them to get their behavior to match. If it’s not aligned, a change in behavior is unsustainable.

So next time when you judge someone’s (friends, family, colleagues) intention, make sure it is not based on the inference from their behavior. Even if it is inferred from their behavior, it always saves time and provides mental peace if you clarify the ‘intention’ with the person.

 

Navratri: As we grow

Navratri is a festival dedicated to the worship of a Hindu deity Shakti. The word Navaratri literally means nine nights in Sanskrit, nava meaning nine and ratri meaning nights.During these nine nights and ten days, nine forms of Shakti/Devi are worshiped. The 10th day is commonly referred to as Vijayadashami or “Dussehra.” Navratri is a very important and major festival in the state of Gujarat and Mumbai, where during all these days the traditional dance of Gujarat called ‘Garba’ is been performed by everyone.

Being an Gujarati , I very well know the way we celebrate the “Navratri“. We celebrate it every year ,but as we grow older ,the form of celebration changes. You can consider it as part of series “As We Grow”. Earlier I wrote Friendship Day: As We Grow . Unlike other festivals it is celebrated by people of all ages, of course their way of celebration is different. As a child , they don’t know much about it. All nine days they are excited about prasad people distribute after Aarti . Frankly speaking I really enjoyed eating different prasad during Navratri days. 😉 They enjoy “Garba” with their little friends.

And they used to play Garba Ground/Temple near their house with their new traditional cloths. While their parent prefers to sit and watch their children playing. If someone forces them , they don’t mind to play for some time. Even their grandparent really enjoy these days.  But that is not the case these days in most places. Small playground is not fits peoples status. People started moving to famous club and big organizers. Even that is good because at least they are enjoying the days. But after getting job or while studying at different places people especially Gujju  miss those days.In post Friendship Day I wrote some different way of celebration as we grow but things are still same in case of Navratri if we ignore few things like 1. It become part of product promotion etc. Children play Garba. Parent love to watch them. Grandparent feel happy to see their grandchildren playing and they remember their old days.And yes for little kids, they still want that different Prasad.🙂

Things that child never tells to his/her parent

To,
My Lovely Parent

When a child born he does not know anything about the real world. It was his parents that make him aware of everything. And he better knows it. Till the age of 15-17 he is enjoying his childhood. He has no fear/worries/tension. His parents and friends are his
world. He just do what his parents wants im to do. He shares everything with his parents. He has a great inner feeling while reaching home every day. But after the age 17-18 , he realized what his parents are doing for him and how they are cutting  their requirement just for the betterment of their children. It is the life changing step for a child. Now he is no more a child. He is entering into adulthood. And after observing his parents daily life, he clearly understood the value of his parents. And the day he starts working for giving every happiness to his parents. And now he no more shares his defeat and disappointments. He will share only his achievement and success. He wants to see his parents happy. After completing his education he starts working on giving every happiness to his parents. But meanwhile during the course of his education he came across many difficult situations. But he never shares. And surprising he suppress his feeling (dream) under the wish of his parents saying “I have my whole life to accomplish my dreams. But my parents don’t.”

I agree there are children described “badly” in many articles but there are children exactly doing opposite to it as described in the article above. How one can forget the priceless moments shown below.

Whatever may be the condition, human emotions are not going to change. So I am becoming more modern or I must say “Adjusting with the current environment” but my feeling are not going to change. Love you parents.

From,

A 21st Century Child

Good People are hard to find on earth…Really?????

Most of you had bad experience with your friends/colleagues / classmates /neighbors and many more. Don’t You? And you have not talked to them for few minutes/hours or may be month. There is the real challenge. From the early childhood we are taught that people are bad but actually they are not. No one is perfect. In a movie “My Name is Khan” SRK’s mom told him “Beta , Duniya main sirf  do tarah ke hi Insaan hote hai 1. Achche Insaan  aur 2. Bure Insaan ” (Son. There are only two kind of people in this world 1. Good People 2. Bad People ) But I am not agree with it. instead I say there is always two thing a person 1. Good Things  and 2 Bad Things .So now next time you had some problem with someone then first think “What is wrong?” Instead of “Who is wrong?”

So….

People say find good people and leave bad ones…

but I changed it …

Find the good in people and ignore the bad in people…