What Others Will Think Of Me ?

How many times you didn’t do something that you wanted to do, thinking “What others/society will think of me?” Many of us care about what other people/society will think. I used to think that way. But I realized that no one really cares other than your family and your inner circle . People might say something for few minutes/hours/days then they will forget , busy living their own life. So do whatever you want to do without thinking about what others will think. According to me what really matters is

What others think about you is not as important as what you think of yourself.

Having said that it doesn’t mean , you don’t care about other people. It simply means what others think about you should not stop you from doing things you love to do.  Sometime you feel “The world aint all sunshine and rainbows” and that is completely okay. No matter what happens , keep moving forward and never give up. This is your life. Make it large.

This is your life. Make it large.

I rarely watch TV but being an cricket fan, last Sunday I was watching India vs. Australia wt20. During commercial break, I saw this new ad featuring SRK in which he talks about the joy of getting things for the first time or doing something for the first time. In the end he spoke one line and that caught my attention.

This is your life. Make it large.

We humans can do most of the things we want to do but the real challenge is to be persistent. Success is not a one time thing. It is a continuous process. This theory is very well visualized in movie Rush. It is a story of two F3 drivers and their journey towards becoming F1 world champions. One got satisfied and stopped practicing after winning first title and other kept on practicing and he won several titles. The one who stopped practicing died at the age of 45 and other got worldwide recognition.

So its up to us what we want to do with our life. Either we get satisfied with one time success or we follow below quote by Steve Jobs:

I think if you do something and it turns out pretty good, then you should go do something else wonderful, not dwell on it for too long. Just figure out what’s next.

It is not an Experience if you can not learn from it.

We all have heard that “Experience makes man perfect”. “Experience is the best teacher”. But do we know the inside story. Recently I realized that  all the proverb/thoughts are right but not always. It is true that experience is the best teacher but only if you are ready to learn. For example you are working on some project/ somewhere and if you can not learn from your mistake then it is not worth. In this case you had experience of working on project/somewhere but you have not learnt anything. So my point is experience and learning is not same. If you have great experience on something then you can not be sure of learning aspect. But instead if you learnt something then it is for sure that you have great experience. And for learning it does not matter for how much duration you have worked. The only thing that count is “What you have learnt”.

Always look for learning factor in whatever you do. Experience will automatically come. 

Is This Really My Life ?

If you are feeling like “Is this really my life?” than this post is for you. Don’t worry you are not the only person who feels the same. There are thousands of people out there in the world. Do you feel like why I have so many problems in my life?  .Always remember one thing “If you don’t have problems in your life than I am sure you are not living life.”  Life is what you make of it.

There are moments when you ask God “Why me?” But according to me you should be thankful to him because he tried you. There are thousands of people like you in the world but he chose you. There is something unique in you. So now on wards when you face problems and you feel like “Why me?” Just remember above lines and say “Try me.” . If you are not convinced yet than let me explain it it a different way. If you don’t face any problems/challenges and you don’t respond well to those challenges than you will die like an ordinary person. No one will remember you. Is it okay with you? or on the other end you want yourself to be remembered by next generation.

Still not convinced: Think of the time when you got success . It can be your school/university grade ,extra curricular activities , promotion or it can be anything else. Now ask yourself. When you got success, have you asked “Why me?”.  Answer would be “No” Right !!! Than why are you afraid now?

Related post: Turn Your Fear into Curiosity.

Live the Best and Leave the Rest.

Generally people are more concerned about what other may think about him/herself when they want

-To do something

-To wear something

-To behave different way

-To eat something

-To speak something

My dear friend what others are thinking about you is not at all your concern. “Do what you love otherwise you are forced to love what you do.”  If  you fall under categories mentioned above then remember If you wait today, you will wait forever. Your excuse may be we have to live in our society so we can not behave/think the way we want. So here is one story

Many years ago Marconi told his friends that he want to communicate wireless. He wants to send radio wave as wireless signal. After listening to Marconi’s thought his friend took him to psychiatrist . But he sticks to what he want to do (has thought). After many experiments  he invented Wireless Communication and today he is known as “Father” of  Wireless Communication. He was awarded with Nobel Prize in 1909.What if Marconi surrendered to his friends and behaved accordingly. If he surrendered ,

-No Wireless Communication.

-No WiFi(Internet)

-No Mobile

-No Radio

Can you imagine world without wireless communication? No. Right.

So be yourself.

If You Wait Today You Will Wait Forever

Are you planning to  do something? Not getting time. You have so many things to do. Then please take few minutes and read this. First thing is “There is never going to be perfect time to begin.”

“If you wait today , you will wait forever.”

What would have happened if  Bill Gates ,Steve Jobs , Ted Turner  waited for the perfect moment to get started. There are moments when no one is with you. But you must have faith in yourself. If you still have doubt do read about Walt Disney or I have posted summery here.

“He has no $ to start business.But he had a passion for films.So he started anyways.

He borrowed film equipment.And made a studio from his garage.

He poured his heart into his first films.But nobody wanted to watch them.

He ran out of money. He lost his apartment.He survived on a diet of cold beans.

But he never give up and got Success.”

If you can dream it , you can do it. – Walt Disney

So Please do it now.

Why I have so many Problems in my Life ???

Is it the question that you ask yourself almost everyday. You are tired of your daily hectic schedule. Then this post is for you. First of all everyone on this earth has problem. If you are a student you had problem with your study , your faculty, your school teacher , your tuition class teacher. If you are a profession , you had problem with your superiors/ colleagues. But my dear friend always remember you can not expect everyone to be yourself . This is one of the best quote from Swami Vivekanand

“In a day, when you don’t come across any problems – you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path”

And finally what I suggest is take your problem as challenges.

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You can not Expect Everyone to be Yourself

This post is for every single person on this earth. If you have not experienced it before, you will surely experience it in your life. You have experienced with your friends , colleagues , classmate , cousins , neighbor and many more. There are situations when someone make you think  “How one can behave such way? That is not fair.” But my dear friend as the title says you can not expect everyone to be like yourself. Almighty GOD has made everyone unique. Everyone has their own belief , their own culture , their own value as well as their own thinking process. Probably what you feel for others , the same feeling someone had for you at different situations.

The other situation can be “Good things always happens to others.” Then I would say “You are also “others” for someone else.” So respect each and every person you meet.

Things that child never tells to his/her parent

To,
My Lovely Parent

When a child born he does not know anything about the real world. It was his parents that make him aware of everything. And he better knows it. Till the age of 15-17 he is enjoying his childhood. He has no fear/worries/tension. His parents and friends are his
world. He just do what his parents wants im to do. He shares everything with his parents. He has a great inner feeling while reaching home every day. But after the age 17-18 , he realized what his parents are doing for him and how they are cutting  their requirement just for the betterment of their children. It is the life changing step for a child. Now he is no more a child. He is entering into adulthood. And after observing his parents daily life, he clearly understood the value of his parents. And the day he starts working for giving every happiness to his parents. And now he no more shares his defeat and disappointments. He will share only his achievement and success. He wants to see his parents happy. After completing his education he starts working on giving every happiness to his parents. But meanwhile during the course of his education he came across many difficult situations. But he never shares. And surprising he suppress his feeling (dream) under the wish of his parents saying “I have my whole life to accomplish my dreams. But my parents don’t.”

I agree there are children described “badly” in many articles but there are children exactly doing opposite to it as described in the article above. How one can forget the priceless moments shown below.

Whatever may be the condition, human emotions are not going to change. So I am becoming more modern or I must say “Adjusting with the current environment” but my feeling are not going to change. Love you parents.

From,

A 21st Century Child

Good People are hard to find on earth…Really?????

Most of you had bad experience with your friends/colleagues / classmates /neighbors and many more. Don’t You? And you have not talked to them for few minutes/hours or may be month. There is the real challenge. From the early childhood we are taught that people are bad but actually they are not. No one is perfect. In a movie “My Name is Khan” SRK’s mom told him “Beta , Duniya main sirf  do tarah ke hi Insaan hote hai 1. Achche Insaan  aur 2. Bure Insaan ” (Son. There are only two kind of people in this world 1. Good People 2. Bad People ) But I am not agree with it. instead I say there is always two thing a person 1. Good Things  and 2 Bad Things .So now next time you had some problem with someone then first think “What is wrong?” Instead of “Who is wrong?”

So….

People say find good people and leave bad ones…

but I changed it …

Find the good in people and ignore the bad in people…