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Different but Same

It is a beautiful Sunday Morning at Melbourne, Australia. Everyone at my house are in the weekend mood and here I am , sitting in one corner thinking about what should I write. It’s almost 3 months for me in this multi-cultural ‘world no. 1 best city to live in‘ city. When I first stepped in to this country, I was quite unsure about whether I will be able to adjust with Australian People even though I did some reading online about Australian people and culture. Initially I was very quite in talking to people thinking I might hurt their feelings considering my open nature. From my reading, my impression was that people over here will be very different. It is true in some sense but not true in absolute sense. People over here are quite different in terms of language they speak, the kind of food they like to eat, the kind of clothes they wear and the way they live. I think that difference is because of the past history and environments. Over the past three months, I had many opportunities to talk to many local people. I spend almost  40 minutes daily in commutation and that is blessings in disguise as during that time, I have opportunity to closely observe and understand local people. As I mentioned before, people are quite different in one sense but on the other side we are all same. “The way we think about our partner”, “the way we think about our children”, “our love for children”, “emotional attachment with some of friends and family members” and “respect for our parents” are all same. Stephen Hawking has rightly said :

We Are All Different, But We Share The Same Human Spirit. Perhaps It’S Human Nature That We Adapt And Survive. – Stephen Hawking

I have traveled a lot in different parts if India and had similar observation.

The only thing that you can control is your reaction.

No one can make you feel any negative emotion — fear, anger, or inferiority — without your express permission. There will always be people who find perverse enjoyment in upsetting others, or who simply play upon your emotions so that they can use you for their own selfish purposes. Whether or not they are successful depends entirely upon you and how you react to their negative behaviors. When you are forced to deal with such people, recognize from the outset that they are trying to upset you, not because of something you may have done to them, but because of some problem they have with themselves. Tell yourself, “This isn’t about me. I will not allow this person to upset me. I am in control of my emotions and my life.” So I want to say

“You can’t control others’ acts, but you can control your reaction to their acts, and that is what counts most to you.”