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Have you ever thought “What are the best things in life?” I am sure most of us have not. Whether you are student or a working professional or an entrepreneur , just give it a thought before reading further…… What all things come to your mind? Is it money , beautiful house or nice car? My dear friend , none of these things matter after some point. Recently I came across below video and that inspired me to write this post.

What do you think ? We are happy in our small world and very small things gives us great pleasure. It may be talking to old school/college friends after long time or it may be going to your native after long time or it may be getting first round of funding (even though it is little) after lots of hard work. Isn’t it? That’s Relativity Of Life.

Alone or Lonely? What’s the Difference?


In English dectionary , Alone and Lonely are synonyms but acording to me they are completely different. Being Lonely means you don’t have someone with you to share something. It can be considered as one of “those” sad moments. While on the other hand I define being Alone as “Enjoying with soul”. Loneliness may kill you but being alone will build you.  From my limited experience , I came to know that most of the people hate “Being Lonely” because they don’t know the power of “Being Alone”. It will help you to heal many problems/difficulties of your life. Okay. I am convinced that by being alone I can build better me but to be frank I don’t have time.I have family[responsibility] , I have job[tension/pressure] , I could not even meet my old friends and there are many more.. But my dear friend “Being Alone” for few minutes is going to help you in all these things. I am not asking for more than 5 minutes daily of your so called “busy” schedule. Okay. I will find time but what to do in these 5-10 minutes What do I get?. Hmm. That’s the problem. We want something from whatever we do. But sometimes best things in the world are free for example what do get by “Smile”. [I will write more about best things in the world in the upcoming post.] In this 5-10 minutes you can:

– Read your diary if you have one

– Check your pictures library [It will make you realize how your life has changed]

– Observe nature [My Favourite]

– Talk to your parents if they are not living with you.

– Think about yourself [Where were you before 5-10 years ago.]

– Do Nothing. [Yes really]

Relativity of Life: Success and Failure


We all have heard of Einstein’s “Theory of Relativity” but this post is about realtivity in our life. When we were small , we were happy with small things and our thought is confined within our small community. If we get higher marks or even beat someone in cricket match , we were more than happy and it is “Success” for us.  But as we grow we came to know about facts of life. And relativity is one of them. As we grow we come to know that what we were considering as a Success is a realative success to our specific community. When I thought more about it, I realized nothing is absolute in this world. Everything is relative.

Relativity

When you got admission into school, you were happy because you got into better school than your friends. In this case your success is relative to your friends. It applies in each and every case including Job, Promotion , Money etc. You can just make list of the things that you are proud of . Then try to find people who are best in related field you have listed. I am sure you can find many people who are more successful in the related field. You might ask “Okay. Agree we live in realtive world and my success is relative to my community but what about the best person in relative field”. The simple answer “He might be the best person in the relative field but he might not have the things you have. To give you an example Stephen Hawking is world’s renowned scientist/physicist. He has great mind but he has to rely on other people to do even his daily tasks.” This example is just to give you an insight into my defination of relativity.  Similarly it applies to failures and human emotions.

My Friends Have Changed !!!!!


Life is amazing. Sometimes it makes us feel like friends are everything and on the other hand sometimes it makes us feel like they are no longer my friends. They become professionals. If it is the case with you then this post is for you. However always remember Life is beautiful: Live it , Learn it , Love it.  Earlier I wrote about friendship but is specific to friendship day. If you are in university pursuing your education , you may miss your old friends from previous universities/ schools OR you are professional and you miss your friends. Some day you tried calling your friend , but before call gets connected you hung phone thinking “Why should I call him/her? He/She should call me. I was his/her close friend.” Or “He/She might be busy. He/She will call me when he/she gets time.” At initial stages it is more like I should not disturb him/her but as time passes it becomes “why should I contact first?” . But my dear friend have you ever thought what your friend is thinking ? What if he/she is thinking the same way and you both were waiting for other person to contact you first. So dear reader “Nothing has changed. You are still friends. Life is still beautiful”. Don’t wait for other to contact you first.

Diwali : As We Grow


Diwali is popularly known as “Festival of Lights”. For Hindus, Diwali is one of the most important festivals of the year and is celebrated in families by performing traditional activities together in their homes. For Jains, Diwali marks the attainment of moksha or nirvana by Mahavira. Diwali commemorates the return of Lord Rama, along with Sita and Lakshmana, from his 14-year-long exile and vanquishing the demon-king Ravana. In joyous celebration of the return of their king, the people of Ayodhya, the Capital of Rama, illuminated the kingdom with earthen diyas and by bursting firecrackers.

I am not going much deeper into history in this post. For more details on Diwali , please read this . To continue my series of As We Grow: Navratri ,  Friendship Day ,  I am going to write about change in the way of “Diwali” celebration.  For a child the most exciting part is they get Diwali vacation , lots of sweets and they can play games all the day with their friends after completing their Diwali homework. Moreover they have lots of fun by bursting firecrackers. For college students they plan to visit new places during small vacation. There is not much difference till they started working/become professional. Once they start working at some company they have only few days of leave. They could not enjoy much.However there is always celebration at compan but it is “professional” celebration For them the most exciting part is they can be at their home town for few days. Although if someone is working near his/her hometown , he/she can enjoy more. However the charm they had when they were child is gone.  For Mothers, they have lots of work to do. This is the time of year when they clean up old things . And they keep themselves busy making lots of sweets. My favorite sweets are ghughra , kaju katri . My mom makes the best ghughra. 🙂

After Diwali there is Hindu New Year (Often known as Vikram New Year). On this day people wish there relatives a new year. And almost for a week people visit their near relatives’ house to wish new year. Earlier people used to have communication with their relatives often but because of the modern  lives they are living sometimes they can see their relatives once a year and that is new year.Diwali is festival of five days.Dhan Teras(It is considered an auspicious day for buying utensils and gold, hence the name ‘Dhana’.) ,Naraka Chaturdashi (kali Chaudas) (It signifies the victory of good over evil and light over darkness) , Diwali , New Year (It is celebrated as the first day of the Vikram Samvat calendar, in Gujarat.), Bhai Bij (on this day, brothers and sisters meet to express love and affection for each other) People illuminate their houses with Diyas and during these days all houses look very beautiful. I want to give one suggestion: From whatever culture you belong , always try to enjoy each and every festivals because when you move to new area/country/culture you are going to miss your place.ex

Navratri: As we grow


Navratri is a festival dedicated to the worship of a Hindu deity Shakti. The word Navaratri literally means nine nights in Sanskrit, nava meaning nine and ratri meaning nights.During these nine nights and ten days, nine forms of Shakti/Devi are worshiped. The 10th day is commonly referred to as Vijayadashami or “Dussehra.” Navratri is a very important and major festival in the state of Gujarat and Mumbai, where during all these days the traditional dance of Gujarat called ‘Garba’ is been performed by everyone.

Being an Gujarati , I very well know the way we celebrate the “Navratri“. We celebrate it every year ,but as we grow older ,the form of celebration changes. You can consider it as part of series “As We Grow”. Earlier I wrote Friendship Day: As We Grow . Unlike other festivals it is celebrated by people of all ages, of course their way of celebration is different. As a child , they don’t know much about it. All nine days they are excited about prasad people distribute after AartiFrankly speaking I really enjoyed eating different prasad during Navratri days. 😉 They enjoy “Garba” with their little friends.

And they used to play Garba Ground/Temple near their house with their new traditional cloths. While their parent prefers to sit and watch their children playing. If someone forces them , they don’t mind to play for some time. Even their grandparent really enjoy these days.  But that is not the case these days in most places. Small playground is not fits peoples status. People started moving to famous club and big organizers. Even that is good because at least they are enjoying the days. But after getting job or while studying at different places people especially Gujju  miss those days.In post Friendship Day I wrote some different way of celebration as we grow but things are still same in case of Navratri if we ignore few things like 1. It become part of product promotion etc. Children play Garba. Parent love to watch them. Grandparent feel happy to see their grandchildren playing and they remember their old days.And yes for little kids, they still want that different Prasad.🙂

Interesting Things about God


This post is inspired by Bollywood movie “OMG(Oh My God)“. If you have not watched it yet,please find some time to watch the movie. It is a story of Kanji, an atheist. By selling idols of gods with make-believe tales he earns a living. One day his shop is destroyed in earthquake. Kanji’s only asset was his shop. He went to insurance company for claim but company rejects his claims on the basis that their cover does not include “act of God”. Then he files a case against God for destroying his property. Kanji sends the notice to all the self-proclaimed God-men who claim to be in constant touch with Him. In the court he has  to prove that “God exists and he has destroyed his property.” Kanji’a argument against so called God-men is awesome and also it gives a remarkable lesson. So Go and Watch. OMG . If you are not Indian and wants to know about God , I have summarised lessons(in my way) from the movie.

1. Does God exists?

-Yes

2. Who is atheist?

– The one who don’t accept the presence of God after experiencing it.

3. If God exists then why can’t we see him?

– As we grow we become more and more selfish and we pray only to God to do a favor maybe good marks in exams, promotions etc. Today we pray to God only when we are in trouble. God exists everywhere. The only thing needed from our side is to experience the supreme power.

– If you have real faith you can see/experience him in even small ants to green leafs.

4. What God is doing for us?

-He has created wonderful nature for us to live. He is always with us.His Job is to show us the right path . We have to reach our destiny by ourselves.

5. What he want from us?

– He does not want to spent your money in Milk ,  flowers , oil , coconut, etc. He does not want any of these things.He wants nothing but little faith in him. If you have some extra money , he wants you to spend those money on helping poor people.

Clouds and our Life: Comparison



We can see clouds almost everyday in the sky. What do you thing there is only one kind of clouds? Recently I experienced that there are basically four kinds of clouds. First kind of clouds are at the bottom. They are alone and they don’t have any kind of reason to live. They are moving very fast from place to place. Second kind of clouds are little higher than first one. They know why they are living but they are not firm in their decisions and they lack confidence. Once they meet any successful cloud they changed their decisions and follow their paths. Third kind of clouds are higher than second one and they are less in world. They know why they are living and they are constantly working on reaching their destiny. They are full of confidence but the only problem with these kind of clouds is they do not share anything with one another. They don’t help other cloud to achieve its destiny. While the last and final category of clouds is much higher than all of the three category. They are full of confidence , very clear about their destiny and they help others to achieve their destiny. Similarly human life can be compared with cloud. Replace cloud with people and we can realize that it is true. Most of people on the earth are fall under second category.

It is not an Experience if you can not learn from it.


We all have heard that “Experience makes man perfect”. “Experience is the best teacher”. But do we know the inside story. Recently I realized that  all the proverb/thoughts are right but not always. It is true that experience is the best teacher but only if you are ready to learn. For example you are working on some project/ somewhere and if you can not learn from your mistake then it is not worth. In this case you had experience of working on project/somewhere but you have not learnt anything. So my point is experience and learning is not same. If you have great experience on something then you can not be sure of learning aspect. But instead if you learnt something then it is for sure that you have great experience. And for learning it does not matter for how much duration you have worked. The only thing that count is “What you have learnt”.

Always look for learning factor in whatever you do. Experience will automatically come. 

Is This Really My Life ?


If you are feeling like “Is this really my life?” than this post is for you. Don’t worry you are not the only person who feels the same. There are thousands of people out there in the world. Do you feel like why I have so many problems in my life?  .Always remember one thing “If you don’t have problems in your life than I am sure you are not living life.”  Life is what you make of it.

There are moments when you ask God “Why me?” But according to me you should be thankful to him because he tried you. There are thousands of people like you in the world but he chose you. There is something unique in you. So now on wards when you face problems and you feel like “Why me?” Just remember above lines and say “Try me.” . If you are not convinced yet than let me explain it it a different way. If you don’t face any problems/challenges and you don’t respond well to those challenges than you will die like an ordinary person. No one will remember you. Is it okay with you? or on the other end you want yourself to be remembered by next generation.

Still not convinced: Think of the time when you got success . It can be your school/university grade ,extra curricular activities , promotion or it can be anything else. Now ask yourself. When you got success, have you asked “Why me?”.  Answer would be “No” Right !!! Than why are you afraid now?

Related post: Turn Your Fear into Curiosity.